Leaving for Love
They have read about some of my experiences and say that my accounts give them reason to doubt making such a move. Will I find other people of color with like minds? Will his family accept me? What will it be like if we have children? These are questions that I can't answer for anyone. But I can say, from my own experience that . . .
. . . love changes. . .it can grow but it can also be tugged at from cultural clashes, misunderstandings or merely just not getting each other. The greatest love, I have learned, does not and should not stay quiet just because the soul is culturally stifled.
If you leave, my sisters, please don't leave with even an ounce of regret as that tiny ounce will spill into liters over time. Come, if you want, because you hope to experience a new life, a thrill, an opportunity without strings that belongs to youth.
It may seem obvious, but know that you will grow older here. You will raise children in a country where you have not been a child.
If you find your identity seeped into your surroundings (especially if you live in a culture of flava) then a move to Germany can certainly challenge that. The love you feel for your partner won't be enough, ever, to quell that loss. You have to look for your soul food market, wherever it is. Sometimes it's in the multiculti blocks of Wedding or Kreuzberg, sometimes it's in the quiet of a yoga studio. Of course, of course its within, but that path can be hidden by foreign leaves.